negative motivation. Negative side of Huxley

So, for some reason, you decided to get yourself a Huxley. Maybe you are an experimenter. Or maybe he is your friend-beloved-relative and wound up on his own. The author will give you a couple of tips on how to win this creature.
Huxleys are inquisitive like animals. Surprise him. Huxleys love unusual people, new ideas, interesting activities. Become interesting person- and Huxley will not pass by.
Huxley - ethics. At the same time, they are negative. The more wrong and ugly, in his opinion, you behave, the faster you push him away from you. If Huxley sees that you are kind to others, it does not bother you to help a friend or even just a stranger, the sooner he will consider you a worthy person. For unobtrusive help to him, Huxley himself will put you on the list of people you can rely on.
Huxley - role emergencies. Let him be a strong and noble knight. Call him to help - he will respond (if you followed the previous tips). Arrange for him a hike where he can show endurance. Just don’t pass it on - this is not Zhukov, in a fight he, of course, will stand up for you, but after that he will shake from overexertion and will hardly be grateful to you.
Huxley does not like, basically, the exact sciences and abstruse words. Yes, they can listen for a while about string theory, Kant's philosophy, and the like... But very soon they will become discouraged and stop listening to you, with the only thought reflected in their eyes: "But when will this end?!"
Huxleys love to be taken care of. Delicious snacks, warmth and comfort are what makes us work actively and give out a lot of ideas. Your care will pay off with the desire to work and do everything for you that you ask. Praise Huxley and he will move mountains for you.
The Huxleys are often late or arrive well in advance. But they don't like latecomers. Similarly, we do not understand those who look ahead, hover in their worlds. It's incomprehensible and annoying.
Huxley - Pretty emotional people, although they know how to restrain feelings if they find their expression inappropriate in this moment. However, strong and long-term emotions throw us off balance: despite the fact that Huxleys are extroverts, they also need to be alone sometimes.
Huxley are stubborn. If we feel that we are being pressured by our will, we will resist. We can be persuaded and difficult to force.
Like any extrovert, we can only change our attitude towards people, but not the people themselves. Too much is hidden in people to be simply assessed "by eye." Therefore, at the first meeting, Huxley may seem withdrawn. He is not closed - he just studies you. However, Huxley enters any new situation very quickly. We easily learn new things. Comprehensive consideration of the situation is not for us.
In summary: knowing these simple features of Huxley, it is very easy to attract and keep his attention. Good luck catching your Huxley, dear readers!

12.02.2016 detailed instructions from socionics experts: where to find your ideal husband, how to recognize and conquer him

Reference: Zvonareva Natalia (executive director of the Research Center for Socionic Analysis) and Kovalenko Roman (trainer, consultant of the National Research Center for Social Analysis) - bachelors of socionics (training at the Research Institute of Socionics in Moscow, diploma of the International Institute of Socionics).

Socionics is a psychological theory that studies how different types of personalities perceive information and interact with each other. 16 types of personalities that socionics distinguishes are named after prominent representatives: Zhukov, Napoleon, Maxim (Gorky), Dumas, Hugo, Dostoevsky, Yesenin, Hamlet, Stirlitz, Don Quixote, Jack (London), Huxley (Thomas Huxley), Robespierre, Balzac, Dreiser, Gabin.

Do I understand correctly that people can be manipulated with the help of socionic knowledge?

N.C.: Yes, that's right. Socionics describes in detail each type of character. And if you managed to determine what type of person is in front of you, then you can simply follow specific instructions: how to communicate with this person, what topics he will be pleased to discuss, and what annoys him. Each type has its own weak point - some kind of topic, talking to him about which you can get him to leave if he bothers you, for example. Also, everyone has his own suggestible sphere - a topic, information on which he perceives without any criticism and becomes disposed towards the person who gives him information on this topic.

Women are always interested in how to find their perfect match. In socionics, this is called a dual relationship - it's something like "opposites attract", right?

R.K.: Yes, dual relationships mean complementary: what is a weak point for one in a pair is a strong point for another, and vice versa. For example, one generates new ideas, but is not very adapted to everyday life, his ideal couple is a person who will be able to provide him with comfort and will be happy with new ideas, because they would not have come to mind on their own. Dual relationships are divided into two large groups: the first type of duality is victim and aggressor (victim and tyrant), the second is infantile and caring. In the first case, it is important for the victim to feel his belonging to the partner and his strength, therefore he constantly provokes his aggressor, and it is important for him that his property rights are recognized. In the second, the infantile needs care, and in return he gives variety, new ideas.

In general, socionics helps to win over anyone - the only question is how much energy you have to spend in each case. If your personality types are initially in conflicting relationships due to the characteristics of each, you will have to spend more energy on building harmony. Duals are automatically comfortable with each other, without unnecessary tension.

Where to look for dual?

R.K.: Dual is where you yourself would never go, where you will need to get out of your comfort zone. But when you get there, you will be guaranteed well there.

N.V.: For example, there is an introvert who is used to structuring everything, his life is planned according to a plan for several years ahead, but he lacks emotions in life (like Robespierre), - we suggested to such a person at our seminar to look for a partner somewhere in salsa courses. This thought terrified him - because the information that he will encounter in salsa (bodily sensations and emotions) is very poorly understood by him and is one of the weak points. Which just will be given by his complementary partner, will take care of him in the sphere of sensations of his body and emotional atmosphere.

R.K.: And the fact is that, despite the initial stupor and fear of discomfort (“no, I don’t want to go there, but I don’t dance at all”), he will come there and he will be cool there.

And how to recognize the dual? After all, not everyone he meets on salsa will be an ideal match for him.

N.C.: Almost all dual stories begin with the fact that people did not like each other very much, they seemed somehow strange and indistinct. The dual begins to catch on only with close communication: you see someone else, strange, incomprehensible to you, but then sometimes you can’t even remember what you were talking about, but you remember that it was very good, comfortable and calm. You may not understand each other: one enthusiastically talks about quantum physics, the second is about sweets, - and both are interested in listening until the morning.

Let's take another look at conflict relationships: why are we attracted to those with whom we then painfully quarrel and part?

R.K.: At a long distance, the conflicter (one of the types of relationships, like the dual) usually looks the way we would like to see ourselves. It seems to us that yes, he is cool, I want to be the same. It seems that if we are with this person, we ourselves will become like that. But no. If the dual covers our weak sides, then the conflicter constantly offends them, reproaching that you cannot match him. And he does this because he also admires your strengths, but you also unconsciously touch his sore spot.

And what to do if such people, on the wave of primary sympathy, came together and want to somehow maintain the relationship?

R.K.: Such relationships are good for a long distance. In society, with friends, they will look like an ideal couple. But when they are alone - a scandal. The way out for them is to increase the distance, for example, their option is a guest marriage. As a rule, all love through Internet correspondence is just a relationship with a conflicter, which is most attractive to us at a long distance. Because the correspondence with the dual will not take place - both will get bored right there.

At the request of SHE, Natalia and Roman compiled a manual on how to recognize and conquer a man of any socionic type. Since there are only 16 types, for brevity they were combined into twos, giving a general conditional definition.

"Caring gentlemen"(Dumas and Gabin types): Men belonging to these types, as a rule, are aimed at creating comfort for themselves and their partner. They tend to equip their lives, cook delicious food, and take care of their health.

How to win them: Perform unusual actions, talk about your ideas, exploits, achievements, involving a person in a series of interesting adventures, constantly present unexpected surprises, bring a wide variety to the lives of these people.

"Caring Kings"(Hugo, Stirlitz): Men who are almost always in sight, very energetic, have a certain authority in society. They gather a small retinue around them and create a comfortable environment for it - both for work and for leisure.

How to win them: Try to stay close to them, help with advice, prompt, share your knowledge. It is necessary to interest a person with your person and your knowledge, so that he himself decides that he cannot do without you.

"Barin Aggressors"(Maxim, Dreiser): They are most often aimed at creating external beauty. They look beautiful, have authority in society. They tend to care about their status and influence.

How to win them: Do crazy things, show them that you are not weaker than them. Tell about your achievements, awards, diplomas. Show how easily and simply you can manage time and resolve unforeseen situations.

How to win them: Try to get into their retinue and help a person with advice on the timeliness of actions, assess the situation, and help in forecasting the future. Unobtrusively provoke a person to pay attention to you and be active in relation to you.

How to win them: They expect their partner to take care of themselves. Prepare delicious food and describe in detail the taste sensations, or, for example, the usefulness of something. Monitor their well-being by tactfully offering them care for their physical needs.

"Infantile Pages"(Robespierre, Dostoevsky): They do not draw attention to themselves, they have a huge amount of knowledge in various fields, smart and well-read people. They easily give advice on both relationships and work.

How to win them: Actively take an interest in these men and their knowledge, while forcing them to care for their physical needs. Do not be afraid of excessive obsession in communication on your part, it will just be only a plus.

"Victim Knights"(Hamlet, Jack): They tend to constantly prove to themselves and the whole world that they are strong and courageous, perform feats. They often challenge themselves and those around them and are led to them. They are very good at planning and predicting the future. Create fashion and tradition.

How to win them: Rigidity and impregnability are important here. You need to show yourself as a strong and correct woman in every sense, to whom he is not interested. They perceive it as a challenge and will achieve it in every possible way for them.

"Victim pages"(Yesenin, Balzac): they try not to attract too much attention to themselves, they do what is interesting only to themselves. They are well versed in the timeliness of processes, have an inner instinct for various changes in the situation.

How to win them: Show them your strength, status and authority, how chic you are, at the same time carrying out an obsessive force capture of a partner, clearly denoting his subordination to you and your authority.

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So, if your chosen one is a pronounced Don Quixote, then surely there is no place for boredom or routine in his life. This is a constant firework of accomplishments, actions, events. You must be easy-going and proactive, involve him in everything that happens, and most importantly - do not forget to ask for help, because for this knight there is nothing more attractive than the opportunity to render a service to a beautiful lady.

The next sociotype is Dumas. In this case, you have to follow other measures of influence. This is a man in order to cry into his vest, to seek help and support. The difference is that he will always be there in words. The activity characteristic of Don Quixote is alien to him. His ideal is a well-established life, when he is ready and his wife is nearby.

Unlike the calm and comfortable Dumas, Hugo is an explosion of emotions. You can seduce such a man only by becoming constant source his vitality, because the gushing of emotions drains them very quickly. So, get ready to praise and approve, appreciate and support at the right time, and Hugo will soon be at your feet.

Turning your search to another polarity, you may encounter Robespierre - a smart, intellectual man, immersed in science. Being with such a number is not an easy task, because he does not tolerate rivalry. To seduce him, you will have to match his level, while not showing your knowledge. You must become a support for him and provide the opportunity to exist, not looking up from scientific research.

If you want to see not the back of your beloved, but his face, then it is better to try to seduce Hamlet. With him you will take your soul away in emotional conversations, conversations, discuss films and books. The path to conquering his heart is quite simple and at the same time requires effort: you need to constantly develop, read, learn about the latest in contemporary art and not only be ready to take part in the dialogue, but also provoke it.

Tired of the initiative, find Gorky's socionic type. With him, you can let go of the reins and surrender to his initiative. He will build a life, solve all the troubles - the main thing is to ask him about it in time. However, any attempt to show independence will lead to the fact that he may feel insecure and uncomfortable next to you, he will have to hide his independence.

Unlike Gorky, next to Zhukov you will have to forget even to ask for something or hint about something. He will do everything without your requests, and in the best way. From his point of view. He is confident and reliable, but he will not listen to your advice or recommendations. He knows better what is good for you and what is bad.

Excessive assertiveness and efficiency of Gorky and Zhukov cause you dissatisfaction? Immerse yourself in the world of beauty by trying to seduce Yesenin. This man is in the sky, he really does not belong to this world. To win his heart, you will have to become a guest of his spaces. It's difficult, but extremely exciting. But remember that it is you in your couple who must connect the real and imaginary worlds.

You can try to form a real couple with Napoleon. You don't have to dominate or stay in the background. If you like active pastime, you are not alien to the spirit of adventurism and a tendency to risk and excitement, to spontaneity and unpredictability, then you will easily and without any prompts seduce such a man.

If none of the above seems worthy of attention to you, if you do not want to make any efforts to achieve the heart of the chosen one, then Balzac is your lot. Why? Simply for the reason that by linking your life with it, you will forget about any cause-and-effect relationships. This is a fate that will simply find you at the most unexpected moment.

Passive natures will also not be without a partner, because it is as if Jack London exists in the world especially for them, whose energy is enough for two. Or even three. If you are ready to put up with the fact that his activity is seething day and night, and balance it with your calmness, then a happy union is guaranteed.

Realize your desire to be in demand and needed by seducing Dreiser. You will easily recognize this person: despite all his strength and stamina, he needs you and does not hide it. Be close - and you will penetrate into his soul.

Unpredictability and constant surprises will burst into your life along with Stirlitz. Do you enjoy any surprises? Are you ready to get out of bed in the middle of the night and go to the other side of the globe? Do you change plans easily? Stirlitz is already at your feet.

Kindness and kindness distinguish Dostoevsky from all other socionic types. It is easy to seduce him, because, by his natural inclination, he sees only positive features in everyone around him, easily forgiving and even simply not noticing. But it will be more difficult to keep it.

Show that you need only one person, that you do not need anyone and nothing, and Gabin will become your life partner. He is a real defender, but it’s difficult for him to fight an enemy from a friend. Get ready for a life of confinement and seclusion.

The last socionic type is Huxley. This is an ideological inspirer that will give you everything, becoming the source of your strength, helping to reveal the abilities inherent in you. What can be done to make the fairy tale come true and turn into a reality? Don't forget to tell him what he does for you.

Website keeps talking about methods of identification and recognition representatives of different sociotypes and this time we will talk about sociotype.

For representatives of the Huxley sociotype of character, there is great insight - at first glance they can feel, determine the character of a person, and, as a rule, this feeling does not deceive them. Huxleys are innate psychologists who subtly sense changes in people's moods. Therefore, it is easy for him to work with people and many of them realize themselves in the field of psychology.

It is very easy to identify Huxlipo by his manner of communication. If we are talking about a man, then this is the style of Don Juan, who quite easily wins women's hearts with soft, courteous manners, his ability to make compliments and unobtrusive, flexible courtship.

The Huxley woman, for the same reasons, "especially if ethics is strengthened, is often perceived as windy and easily accessible, provoking men to active attempts. However, she gives out an unexpectedly decisive rebuff, up to assault, if the matter takes a serious turn.

Huxley's manner of communication is characterized by spontaneity and emotionality. Knows how to find an approach to almost any person. Very easy to communicate with, a pleasant conversationalist. Helps people with his advice on how to get out of an ethical predicament. Inspires hope with phrases like: "Everything will be fine", "Still ahead", "There are no hopeless situations", etc. To logical types, this manner of communication may seem chaotic, superficial. However, on the other hand, precisely due to the fact that he does not bother himself with a deep study of details, Huxley is able to easily master new areas of knowledge, grabbing the most interesting in an area that is attractive to him.

Having the opportunity to observe Huxley for a long time, it is easy to establish the most salient feature his behavior - the ability to create around him his own circle of close acquaintances, in the center of attention of which he is. Moreover, Huxley forms the relationships he needs in this group of people unobtrusively, gently, with a sense of tact. He values ​​the opinion of the people around him very much. Actively defends himself in the event that someone questions their abilities, scolds, insults. Huxley is characterized by volitional mobilization in extreme situations. When there is panic around, Huxley becomes active, becomes decisive, can take command into his own hands, if there is no more strong-willed personality type nearby.

Under normal conditions, he is rather lax, he finds it difficult to painstakingly perform monotonous work. Deep study of specific issues is boring for him. Having learned the most interesting in one area, he switches to another. Often changes hobbies. Follows his appearance. In behavior, he is prone to adventurism, ill-considered actions, impromptu.

We bring to your attention video with well-known representatives sociotype Huxley: Russian TV presenter Andrey Malakhov, Russian singer, the leader of the group "Mumiy Troll" Ilya Lagutenko and American TV presenter Oprah Winfrey:

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