Throughout their conscious life, each person makes many decisions. Every day he faces a choice of how to act correctly in any situation, what to buy in a store, where to go to study or work, what to wear to a responsible or not so important event, how to distribute his finances. Decision making is often accompanied by stress, which is known to negatively affect our psyche. How to make a decision to reduce Negative consequences to the minimum?

"Debriefing" on the simplest example

The longer we hesitate, not knowing how to make the right decision, the more negative emotions we experience, the faster we lose the ability to correctly and quickly choose the right option.

It's good, of course, to think about the past and analyze your actions already committed. But when we occupy our thoughts, say, for a week with only one issue that is related to making a decision, this is no longer good, but harmful. The more we think, the more solutions pop up in our heads. If each of these options is not bad, we cease to perceive the task adequately, because we are in a suspended state that does not allow us to look at things soberly. There is no right decision here.

Psychologists have developed a set of rules that will make it easier to make a decision, regardless of the nature of the issue. Whether you are thinking about what to wear to a party or deciding whether to continue dating a man or better break up with him, in any case, take these rules into account.

Do not rely only on yourself

Taking difficult decision discuss it with loved ones. There is a good chance that you will get good advice from them. This is first. Secondly, a problem that has been voiced several times ceases to be a problem, but takes on a clear outline of a situation from which there are at least two ways out. But we want to warn you: do not cross the line and do not ask for advice from everyone around you. Trust only those closest to you. After all, everyone can advise, but there will be no sense from this - an abundance of advice, especially from strangers who are unfamiliar with your situation, will simply confuse you.

Do not decide from a moment of emotional stress

Postpone making any decision until the time when you are no longer overwhelmed with emotions and feelings. They do not affect the correctness of the decision in the best way. If you take it at the moment emotional stress the consequences may be undesirable. Wait until everything boils inside you, take a sober look at the situation and try to make the right decision.

think about it tomorrow

Remember how the unforgettable Scarlett O'Hara from the novel "Gone with the Wind" said? Right: "I'll think about it tomorrow." And it is not for nothing that people say that the morning is wiser than the evening. Psychologists are sure: our subconscious mind knows the answers to all questions. During the day, the brain is overloaded with information, it cannot decipher the signals sent by the subconscious. Therefore, do not make an important decision during the day or in the evening. It is better to ask yourself a question that worries you before going to bed, it is quite possible that in the morning you will already know what to do. In such a case, it is recommended to put a sheet of paper and a pen or a voice recorder on the bedside table near the bed. The solution to the problem may come to you even when you are half asleep, and it will need to be fixed so as not to forget.

No matter how much sensible advice you are given, remember that you must make the decision yourself. After all, this is your life, you should not trust even very close people to manage it. After all, each person, regarding the situation, proceeds from his own considerations. What suits this person may not suit you. Consider opinions from the outside, but without fanaticism.

Listen to your heart and trust your intuition

Remember the anecdote when an inner voice said to an avid gambler who staked his entire fortune: “God, how wrong I was!”. The inner voice is often wrong, so you need to trust either your body or your intuition (everyone is different). One man, signing an important contract, felt an unpleasant tingling in his chest. The contract, as it turned out later, was unprofitable. Another felt a headache, the third - a slight dizziness. All these are the signals that the body sends us, and this is his request to delay the decision. In this case, we call intuition not an inner voice that can make mistakes, but clues from the outside world - peculiar signs. Phrases dropped by someone in our presence, posters, objects, signs, and so on. Often the world around us helps to ensure that our thoughts are concentrated in the right direction. The main thing is to notice the signs sent by fate.

Do not repeat steps

Many people, when making decisions, are guided by analogies: this, they say, has already happened before, it was necessary to do this and that, and that's what we will do now. Of course, experience is good, and it also needs to be connected when making an important decision. But do not forget that life is not a swamp, but a river, which, as you know, cannot be entered twice. Try to find a new way to solve the problem.

Consider and plan for the future

There are decisions that affect our future. And there are those who can radically change our life path. These are very important decisions, making which you need to consider all possible options. So, a change of residence may make you lonely, and leaving work will deprive you of career opportunities.

Positive thoughts help

Popular psychology books related to positive thinking are of great interest to readers. If you have heard about the methods of N. Pravdina, A. Sviyash, V. Levy, N. Kozlov, then you know that any of our desires materialize and come true. Dreams turn into reality. Therefore, when making a decision, it is better to present a positive picture of fulfilled desires. This helps not only to make the right decision, but also not to go astray. Is it hard to end a relationship with a married man? Do not think about loneliness, but imagine yourself free and dream of meeting with big love. Can't eat after six? Imagine how your figure becomes perfect. Are you afraid to leave a low-paid and unloved job? Save money as a financial cushion and look for a new activity. Imagine how happy you will be in doing what you love.

Every day we make several decisions a day, from choosing a menu for breakfast to social circle. Most of our decisions are harmless and cannot radically change our lives, but there are also those on which our entire future life depends completely. In difficult situations, we often begin to doubt ourselves and the correctness of our decision, rush between several options and lose a lot of time and energy instead of taking action.

How to make the right decision in life

Decision making is a real science. However, there is nothing supernatural in it, every person can quickly and correctly learn how to make decisions. It is enough to muster up the courage, take responsibility for your life in your own hands and adhere to a few rules and methods.

There are several ways to make decisions:

• heuristic(based on feelings and intuition)
• algorithm(based on informed decisions, study of information and analysis).

Ideally, there should be harmony between rational thinking and intuition.

In addition, the manner of solving problems largely depends on the type of personality and temperament. So, extroverts prefer not to think for a long time, but immediately begin to act, while introverts analyze a lot and can “hang” for a long time before making a decision. Both of these strategies can become a failure: the extrovert will eventually mess things up, and the introvert will remain sitting in the problem and waiting for it to be solved by itself.

Basic decision rules

There are some rules to follow when in doubt when making a decision.

1. Remember your life priorities and stick to them strictly. Think about what is really important to you and why you work, study, etc. Often values ​​and priorities are artificially replaced by society.
   For example, the principle of "money for the sake of money" becomes fashionable. When applying for a job, think about what you really value and why are you doing it? If you really value your family and communication with children, a highly paid job with constant processing may simply not suit you. By focusing on the essentials, making decisions becomes much easier.
2. Try it if possible. You can think endlessly about what would happen if you went and did something, or you can just try and then make a decision.
   For example if you dream of being famous graphic designer, ask for an internship at an advertising agency. Looking at the dream job from the inside, making a decision will be much easier.
3. Limit the number of options. You should have a choice, but remember that the abundance of options does not help, but, on the contrary, makes it difficult to make a decision.
4. Come up with an algorithm of action if a certain situation occurs.
   For example, if you started your own business, but after a year it did not start to generate income, you stop investing in a loss-making enterprise. Such “backup” algorithms allow you to calculate the risks and insure yourself in case of an unfavorable course of the situation.
5. Seek advice from loved ones and more experienced people. It is important to be able to process these tips. Of course, the opinion from the outside and the information received are very important. However, do not forget that sometimes people give advice, projecting their own fears and failures onto your life. Be careful and don't follow other people's opinions.
6. State the problem several times. Seeking advice is useful not so much to hear advice as to talk through the situation. When we repeat our question several times, new unexpected thoughts and ideas come to us already at the moment of pronunciation.
7. Stop thinking and analyzing and just act. Sometimes we have nothing to lose in a given situation, so why waste your time and energy thinking? Wherever there are no casualties, act swiftly and decisively.
8. Postpone the decision until tomorrow. Sometimes weighing and making a decision is much easier with a fresh head. In addition, sometimes it is useful to rely on your subconscious and ask yourself an exciting question at night. Perhaps the first thought that comes to mind immediately after waking up will turn out to be the right option.
9. Limit the time to make a decision. The law of forced efficiency comes into force.
10. Rely not only on your experience, but also on current changes in the situation.
11. Once you've made a decision, act now!

What should not be done?

1. Don't turn off your intuition. It is still worth listening to your body and "signs from above".
2. Don't delay making a decision and implementing it. Otherwise, you will remain sitting with the problem.
3. Never regret your decisions. Remember that there is no ideal course of action. Everything that happens to us happens for something and is already the most correct decision. Perhaps, having made a different decision, there would be much more problems?
4. Do not abuse advice and do not ask everyone in a row.
5. Don't shift responsibility for your life onto someone else.
6. Don't be led by your emotions.

Eliminate emotions

It is very important before making a decision to get rid of interfering emotions: fear, nervousness, excitement, etc. Such emotions make it difficult to concentrate on the main thing, constantly draw attention to minor details and do not allow you to adequately look at the situation.

Fear

In order to get rid of fear, you need to imagine the worst case scenario very clearly. Of course, it will be greatly exaggerated, but playing a frightening moment in the imagination will allow you to touch your own fear and prepare for possible problems on the way to the goal.

Breath

No matter how trite, deep and slow abdominal breathing will help get rid of interfering excitation. You need to breathe deeply into the stomach, while the chest practically does not move. Take 10 slow breaths in and out, slightly holding your breath for 5-7 slow counts.

Wait

Just wait. Momentary impulses and desires are not always worthy of an early implementation. Sometimes they pass as quickly as they appear in our head. It is better to wait until the wave of excitement and emotions subsides than to do something stupid.

Stay Focused

Try to be here and now as much as possible when making a decision. Stop being distracted by external factors and various little things. If necessary, retire and be alone. Dive headfirst into the problem and focus on it.

The 10/10/10 rule

To cool your ardor, sometimes it is enough to ask yourself three questions:

1. How will I feel about my decision in 10 minutes?
2. In 10 months?
3. After 10 years?

While doing this practice, try to be as honest with yourself as possible.

Remember this state when a friend turns to us for advice. We clearly see the situation and do not pay attention to various trifles. Try to look at your problem from the outside and give yourself adequate advice.

Ideal "I"

Choose from the proposed options ideal. Try not to think about what you want. Our desires are not always in our favor.

Decision-making methods

Mankind has come up with many ways to make the right decision throughout its existence. But before you start getting acquainted with these methods, you need to understand what the correct solution consists of:

1. Information. These are dry facts emotional coloring and information distortions.
2. Selectivity in information. Not all facts should be taken on faith or projected onto your life.
3. Concentration on the problem and its solution.
4. An experience. Mostly your personal, but the experience of loved ones is also very valuable.
5. Flexibility and ability to adapt to changing situations.
6. Adequate assessment of what is happening.
7. Consistency in decision making and subsequent actions.

Avoid limits and boundaries

People tend to choose between two extremes: "Yes" or "No". Buy a car on credit or not? Get divorced or not? Quit or not? We drive ourselves into the framework of a difficult choice, while the true answer to the question may be hidden in the middle or even lie in a different plane.

For example, someone wants to buy a car on credit, but doubts because he does not want to get into debt. Perhaps the question should simply be put differently and buy a cheaper car, rent an apartment closer to work, or even find a job near your current place of residence.

Try to think broader and avoid yes/no boxes.

Dream Diary

Imagine the goal in all colors and your future life when you get it. Answer the following questions:

• How will I feel?
• Why do I need it?
• Will I become more confident?
• What opportunities will open up for me?

Write down your fantasies in detail in your diary, answer questions, and reread your entries every day. At first, you will not believe what you are reading, but over time, your subconscious mind will take on a new picture.

In addition, a vivid representation of your own dreams and goals helps you make decisions. Most importantly, always remember why you wake up in the morning.

Expand Your Choice

Don't get hung up on the first option you see. Check out other alternative solutions as well. Suddenly it turns out that there are options much better and more profitable? However, you should not expand the choice to an unlimited number of options. Remember that this will only make it harder to solve the problem.

disappearance

Imagine that the option you chose suddenly disappeared. What will you do in such a case?

This method allows you to get rid of attachment to one specific solution and get out of the dead end of thinking.

Search for information

Study thoroughly everything related to the problem and ways to solve it. Getting to know reviews on the Internet has become an ordinary ritual before purchasing a product or service. But for some reason, not everyone does the same when choosing a university or a new job.

Research the issue on the Internet and, if possible, communicate with those who worked or studied in this institution. This will already save you half the wrong choice.

In addition, you can ask questions directly at the interview. Do not specify what bonuses the company can offer and whether there are additional benefits for employees. Better ask who was in this position before, how many people left this position and why, where they are now and how you can contact them. The answers to these questions will already be enough to make an informed decision.

If it is difficult to make a decision, you can use the Descartes square method. To do this, draw a square on a piece of paper and divide it with two lines into four more squares. In the upper left box, write everything that you will get by making this decision, and in the right box, everything that you will get by not making it. In the lower squares, respectively, everything that you will not get if you make this decision, and everything that you will not get if you do not accept it.

After you finish writing all the pros and cons of this solution, it remains to calculate their ratio and number:

1. Subtract the number of minuses from the number of pluses in the upper right square.
2. Carry out the same operation with the left column of the square.
3. Make a decision.

Three question method

There is such a theory that before making a decision you need to ask yourself three times. The first time the answer will come on the basis of emotions, the second time - on the basis of logic, and the third answer will be the closest to the truth.

Try on different hats

You can also make a decision in game form. To do this, imagine that you have seven hats different colors and each of them can radically change the way you think:

• Red- makes you excitable and emotional;
• Lilac- allows you to always remain rational;
• Blue- includes intuition;
• Black- makes you see one negative and pass everything through the prism of a defeatist attitude;
• Pink- makes overly self-confident and incapable of self-criticism;
• orange- generates impossible projects and makes fantastic plans;
• White - gives wisdom.

Try on all the hats and try to bring out the middle one from the whole stream of thoughts and feelings.

We exclude uninteresting options

You can choose from multiple alternatives using the elimination method. Remove the most unattractive option from the existing ones. Then remove another one and another one. Continue eliminating unwanted options until one option remains.

lesser evil

Not always our choice is connected with pleasant things. Sometimes, no matter what we choose, the consequences will not be very pleasant. What to do in this case? Accept the situation as it is and try to choose what will be the least unpleasant for you.

PMI method

The abbreviation PMI can be deciphered as Plus, Minus, Interesting . Make a table with three columns. In the first, write down all the possible pluses from the decision made, in the second - the minuses, and in the third - just all the interesting remarks, nuances and comments that are neither pluses nor minuses.

This plate will help to visualize all the advantages and disadvantages of the decision made and once again weigh the pros and cons.

Practicing the Five Guiding Questions

Suppose you have already chosen a solution for your problem. How to check if you are moving in the right direction and whether it is worth changing it? The five questions method will help you with this:

1. Do I want this (become someone / do something / have something)? If the answer is yes, keep asking questions.
2. If I do this (become someone / do something / acquire something), will I remain in harmony with myself, the world, the Universe and God (for believers)? If yes, then we continue.
3. If I do this, will it bring me closer to my dream? Yes? We continue.
4. If I do this, will it violate anyone's rights? If not, then you can ask yourself the last question.
5. If I do this, will it be better for me or for someone else?

If you come to the last question and the answer is yes, you can safely assume that you are on the right track.

Algorithm for independent decision making

In order to learn how to make decisions on your own, take a piece of paper and a pen.

1. Write on a piece of paper what your problem is.
2. List the reasons why it needs to be addressed.
3. Describe in detail the desired outcome of events.
4. Write down all possible options for solving the issue and the actions that need to be taken.
5. Analyze your answers, relate them to current opportunities, and take action.

How to make a job decision?

When you are about to leave your job or choosing from several vacancies, remember your life priorities and values. If your family is at the head of everything, it is wrong to choose a job with irregular working hours and constant delays at work, even if you get good pay for it.

It would be a good idea to ask a friend for help in this case. After all, real risks and imaginary fears are always better seen from the outside. If you have no one to ask, try giving yourself advice. Try to turn off your emotions, because a job change can change your life for the better or for the worse.

How to decide on a divorce?

If a family life gave a crack and everything is bad, sometimes thoughts of divorce may flash. Do not rush to chop off the shoulder. Wait until the emotions calm down and clarity appears in the head. Perhaps it would be useful to live a little apart with your spouse.

Do not rush to seek advice from loved ones. If you then change your mind and make peace with your husband or wife, loved ones will condemn him / her, consider him / her an enemy and put spokes in the wheels. In addition, personal life is one of those areas of life where decisions should remain solely with you, so that later you will not bitterly regret that you blindly listened to someone's advice.

Remember to avoid narrow boundaries and radical solutions. Perhaps the question "To divorce or not?" put incorrectly and there are other solutions, for example: sort out relationships, work through grievances, talk heart to heart, improve relationships, or contact a family psychologist.

If you understand that you are much better apart than in an alliance with a partner, and you won’t be able to restore the relationship, it may be worth getting a divorce than fighting for a destructive relationship that no one needs.

How to help make a decision?

Every person is the master of his own life. Therefore, give others the opportunity to build their own lives, win and make mistakes. If you see that your loved one doubts himself, give him the opportunity to make his own decision and do not meddle with unsolicited advice. Of course, if you are asked for advice, you can express your opinion and say what you would do, but no more. You have no right to make a decision for another person or take responsibility for his life.

What prevents us from making adequate decisions? (Dan Gilbert)

The whole life of a person consists of a series of decisions - large and small. Some of them affect the rest of your life. Many people have difficulty when faced with the need to make a choice. Let's figure out how to make the decision-making process the most effective, and what methods can be used to do this.

Every day life puts us in front of a choice, throwing up a variety of tasks. What to cook for breakfast? What suit to wear to work? What phone to buy? Where to go to rest during the holidays? Should I agree to the marriage proposal or wait? Quit your job or stay? There are decisions that do not really affect anything, but there are those that radically change life.

All people behave differently when they make decisions. There is a category of people who are called "pofigists". They never suffer from a choice, because they prefer the first available or the simplest option. They put on the clothes that they take out of the closet first, go on a date with the one who invites them first, get the job that is easiest to get, etc. These people believe that life itself will put everything in its place, so they don’t worth the effort.

Another category of people when making important decisions is guided by intuition. These individuals always listen to their inner voice and do not doubt the correctness decisions taken. However, there are not many such people.

Most of the people are individuals who experience difficulties during the choice. They suffer, doubt, weigh each option, but still cannot make a final decision. And when the decision is made, they continue to doubt its correctness. If you are one of those people and do not know how to make a decision, if in doubt, then it will be useful for you to learn a few methods that make the selection process easier.

Method 1. Descartes Square

The essence of the method is to consider the problem you are facing from four different angles. To do this, you need to ask yourself 4 questions. Take a sheet of paper and divide it into four parts in the form of a square. For each section, write one of the following questions:

1. What good will I get if I fulfill my plan?
2. What good will I get if I refuse to fulfill my plan?
3. What harm will I get if I fulfill my plan?
4. What harm will I get if I refuse to fulfill my plan?

Think and write in each square the answer to the question. By listing all the pros and cons of implementing your plan and not implementing it, you can understand what decision you should make.

If you don’t know how to act in this or that situation and stop doubting, tell the two closest people about the problem and ask them for advice. Folk wisdom says that each person has his own guardian angel who protects and guides on the right path. The guardian angel gives clues through intuition. If a person has poorly developed intuition, then an angel can convey a hint through loved one. Hence the recommendation to ask for advice from the two closest people.

Method 3. "Expanding the scope"

The problem with most people is that they narrow themselves down and see no alternatives. They tend to obsess over “Yes” and “No” options, not realizing that there are other choices. Let's say you want to borrow a car. You see only two choices - take a car on credit or continue to travel by public transport.

Expanding the selection box, you will see alternatives. For example: you can find a cheaper car and buy it no longer on credit; you can refuse a loan and start saving money to buy a car; you can rent a house closer to work and not use public transport; you can generally change jobs by getting a job in another company located close to your home; you can arrange with one of your colleagues to drive you to work in his car for a certain fee. As you can see, there can be many options, the main thing is to see them.

Method 4. "Disappearance of options"

Imagine that the option you like best is not available. For example, the company you want to work for has ceased to exist. Think about what to do in this case. Thinking in this vein, you will discover other equally interesting options regarding new work, which you have not seen before, because you are fixated on one.

Method 5. "Glass of water"

The author of this technique is the American parapsychologist Jose Silva, the founder of the Silva Method, the author of books on non-traditional psychology. He suggests the following: in the evening before going to bed, pour into a glass of clean, unboiled water. Hold the glass with both hands, close your eyes, focus on the problem that concerns you, and clearly articulate the issue that needs to be resolved. Then, slowly, drink half the glass, mentally repeating something like this: “This is all I need to make the right decision.”

Place a glass of water next to your bed and go to bed. In the morning after waking up, the first thing to do is drink water and thank your subconscious for the right decision. The solution may come immediately after waking up or during the day. People who have tried this technique claim that it works.

Method 6. "Delay"

If you can't make a choice and make a decision, give yourself a break. When you are excited and your brain is overloaded with information, do right choice very hard. Remember how often in a hurry you made the wrong decision, and then regretted it? To prevent this from happening, take a break, calm down, once again carefully analyze the strengths and weak sides of your choice. There are not many situations in life that require an instant decision, so don't be afraid to put it off for a while.

Method 7. "Know the information"

Before making a choice, try to find out as much information as possible about the option you are going to give preference to. When it comes to buying a product, read online reviews about it. When deciding to change jobs, find out all about the position you are about to take and the people who have worked there before you. If possible, seek out these people for first-hand information. You understand that the employer may not tell you about all the difficulties that await you, and a person who has already worked in this company before is unlikely to withhold such information.

The more important the decision you make, the more responsible your approach to finding the right information should be. So you protect yourself from deception and prepare for possible difficulties.

Method 8. "Reject emotions"

Emotions make it very difficult to make the right decision, because they distort the vision of the situation. An emotionally aroused person is not able to think sensibly. Therefore, make it a rule for yourself: never make decisions while at the peak of emotions. Anger, fear, anger, as well as stormy joy, euphoria are bad advisers in making decisions.

If you are overcome by emotions, do not make any choice. Give yourself time to cool down, and then take a sober look at the situation. So you will protect yourself from rash acts and their consequences.

How to get rid of emotions?

Even when you understand that emotions are preventing you from making the right choice, you can't always get rid of them. To facilitate this process, use simple methods.

10/10/10

This method allows you to discard momentary impulses and look at the situation in the long term. The essence of the method is to ask yourself three questions before making a decision:

• How will I feel about my choice in 10 minutes?
• How will I feel about my choice in 10 months?
• How will I feel about my choice in 10 years?

Let's say you want to borrow an expensive car. You apply for a loan and get behind the wheel of a brand new car. What will you think 10 minutes after the purchase? Surely you will be in euphoria, rejoicing in your acquisition. But after 10 months, the joy will subside, and you will feel the full weight of the credit burden, you will be faced with the need to limit yourself in many things. And in 10 years, when you finally pay off your debts, you will see that your car is old and needs repair, or maybe you are already so tired of it that you want to sell it.

The 10/10/10 method can be used in any situation. It perfectly helps to pacify emotions and look at the long-term consequences of your choice, so as not to regret what you have done later.

stay in the dark

A good way to subdue emotions is to simply be in the dark. Psychologists have proven that twilight or complete darkness calms a person, helps to put thoughts in order. Please note that jewelry stores are always brightly lit. Do you think this is done so that gold and precious stones play better and shimmer in the rays of light? Not only for this. Marketers know that bright lights are more likely to cause a person to make impulse purchases.

If you need to calm your emotions in order to make the right decision, sit for a while in a semi-dark or dark room, think again about the consequences of your choice.

Breathe deeply

Another simple but effective method to help in the fight against emotions is deep breathing. Take 10 slow and deep breaths in and out, and then ask yourself again: “Am I doing the right thing?”.

Think about what advice you would give to a friend.

To reduce emotions and cool the ardor, it is useful to look at the situation from the outside. Imagine that it is not you who is facing the need to make a decision, but your friend. What would you advise him to do in this situation?

Many people notice such a feature in themselves: they give practical and rational advice to their acquaintances, but they themselves, getting into similar situations, behave extremely stupidly. This happens because looking at the problem from the outside, we see only the most essential. And when we ourselves find ourselves inside the problem, then a lot of all sorts of little things pop up, to which we attach too much importance.

The ability to abstract and look at the situation with an open mind gives a significant advantage when it comes to making the right choice.

Method 9. "Following life priorities"

Each person has his own life values, rules and priorities that influence his choice. Always stick to these values ​​and you can't go wrong. For example, you are offered a choice of two positions: one of them is prestigious and highly paid, but requires a lot of feedback from you; the second is less prestigious and not with such a high salary, but you do not need to work overtime and you have a lot of free time. Which one to choose?

To make decisions without doubt and stress, be guided by your life priorities. If your family comes first, then choose a position that is not so prestigious and paid, but will not steal your personal time, which you can devote to loved ones. If you dream of building a career, give preference to a prestigious and highly paid position that will help you move up the career ladder.

Method 10. "Intuition"

Intuition is a wonderful tool that not everyone knows how to use. She can tell you the way out when rational methods did not bring the desired result. And it often happens like this: you make a choice based on logic and rationality, and this choice seems to you the most correct, and the inner voice stubbornly protests against it. Maybe you should listen to him?

Develop intuition, and it will become a great helper in different situations, but do not overestimate its role and do not forget about reason and logic.

Once in a situation of choice, use any of the listed methods, or rather, apply several at once. Over time, you will understand which method suits you best, and you will be able to use it in a variety of life situations. By learning how to make decisions, you will significantly improve the quality of your life.