Tag Archives: Generic Scenario. Generic scenario for the development of interpersonal relationships, how to work with them and how to change them

I sincerely believe that every woman is worthy of love and happiness. And she deserves to have her man treat her with tenderness, attention and respect. Then why is it that many women never find happiness in family life, are disappointed in men or are they satisfied with moderately good relations? It's easy to "blame" everything on fate or on the fact that the "muzhiks have transferred" as easy as shelling pears. But the fact is that such behavior of existing problems does not solve and does not make you happier.

Do you really want to remain in the role of a victim, blaming everyone in a row, but not taking a single step towards happiness and joy? Including towards happiness in family life?

I believe that all people want happiness and love, they just do not always know how to achieve this.

In this article, I will share the methods that worked for me and made me a happy woman. I will share those methods that helped not only me, but also many other women to become happy. I'll tell you about generic scenarios and how to work with them, how to work out parental programs.

Although I have repeatedly mentioned these methods on the Solar Hands website and in the book, judging by the letters that come to our administrator, such material is clearly not enough. For some reason, many beautiful girls and women are convinced that in order to improve relationships, you only need to read articles or books - that's all. You don’t need to do anything else, everything will immediately fall into place. But few people understand that the basis of the foundations is the study of negative beliefs, parental programs and generic scenarios and the formation of a new image of a happy relationship.

But after all, these situations are only a consequence, and the reason is hidden in your beliefs, in your images formed on the basis of parental behavior. Based on what kind of relationship your parents had and what statements you heard about men as a child.

In order for a child to survive, he needs to adopt, copy the behavior of adults. And he copies it to a certain age unconsciously. The child does not have a "good" or "bad" filter. He simply repeats what his parents do, without questioning how effective their behavior is and whether it brings them happiness. So we grow up with the programs and beliefs of our parents. But what worked for them doesn't always work for us. Therefore, in adulthood, we begin to wonder how to work with generic scripts. How to reprogram them and how to create a happy life for yourself.

And the world itself is changing, which means that the old strategies that suited our parents and grandparents must be changed to new ones.

Also, we ourselves do not always want what our parents wanted. If earlier the question of women's happiness was not particularly raised, now more and more women are thinking about how to become happy? Is it possible to become happy by acting in the same way as your mother acted and lived (lives)? Of course, if she is a happy, loving and beloved, successful and healthy woman, then feel free to take her life strategies as a basis.

What if she's unhappy? If all her life she only does what she blames others, and in particular your father, for her failures?

If she is not married at all and is aggressive towards men?

If she is used to leading the family and playing the role of a "man", to live with male energies?

In these and similar cases, do you need it, to adopt the strategies of unhappiness and suffering, to create not your own life, but how to continue living the life of your mother?

Often we simply do not realize how much subconscious parenting programs and beliefs control our lives. And in order to change your life, to improve relations with men, it is necessary to erase the programs absorbed in childhood and form new ones.

But how do you know exactly what to erase? How exactly to erase parental programs? And how to form new ones?

Most importantly, do not confuse the development of parent programs with visualization. Visualization often fails if you do not address erroneous beliefs. Let's say you visualize happiness in family life, and in your subconscious mind you have an image of a parental program, according to which the husband and wife are moderately happy. In this case, visualization may not really work. First you need to erase the negative parental image, and only then visualize how you want to live.

So, let's start working.

First. First, track down how you are like your mother? Why did she have problems with men? Let's say:

- eternal discontent and nit-picking to your man?

- criticism of everything that the husband will do?

- the desire to pull everything on yourself, to be a "man in a skirt"?

- blaming all men, etc.,

- low self-esteem and the words "I don't need anyone"? Etc., etc.

Observe yourself and your habits, and most importantly, your subconscious beliefs. Do you treat men the same way as your mother? Do you have a life script of your parents?

Many women, precisely because they repeat the life of their mother, and possibly their grandmother, do not develop relationships with men.

Second. Now about how to erase these programs. All methods are described in detail in the book. "How to make a man get off the couch 2. Secrets of happy women", the article will not be able to paint everything. But I will try to at least briefly outline the main points.

First, and most importantly, when you find similarities with parental programs, you don’t need to run right here and blame your mom for everything.

She lives the way she knows how, and most importantly, the way she likes. Therefore, you do not need to waste your energy on empty attempts to change another person. In any case, this will not help you, but you can lose your time and energy.

Change yourself and your life. And so that there is no leakage of energy, do not tell anyone about your activities. And most importantly, do not prove your case.

An exercise. Stay alone, relax, close your eyes and start remembering your mother's behavior (which you want to change in yourself) towards men. For example, remember how your mother does everything herself, and then complains to her father that he does not help in anything. So pull out your own similar behavior from your memory. Then relive the scenes where you behaved in exactly the same way again and again.

At the moment when you relive the image that you want to change, tell yourself that you forgive yourself and let go of someone else's life and someone else's strategy of behavior. Tell yourself that you don't want to be like that anymore, and you forgive yourself for your behavior.

It often happens that when at such moments someone can burst into tears. Someone will start dancing, as if dancing this program out of their body. Do not hold back any desires, let go of yourself, relax and wash away, erase the program that makes you unhappy with a stream of pure energy.

After you have worked through the birth programs, it is best to lie down and relax, enjoy the feeling of lightness and sleep.

Third. And only after you have worked through the erroneous belief, you can visualize and lay in the subconscious an image of a new behavior, your new life, an image of other relationships with men.

After you have poured out the old liquid from the jug and rinsed it, you can pour clean water. Otherwise, rendering may not work.

Now close your eyes and imagine how you want to live. Type photos of happy couples and think about what kind of woman you need to become so that a man admires you, loves you, respects you, etc.? Obviously do not pull everything on yourself, do not criticize a man for everything and just like that "on the go." Clearly do not pretend that you can handle everything yourself and you do not need a man supposedly for happiness.

Often letters come asking you to write about how to be a true woman, how to flirt and how to behave with men?

Well, firstly, almost half of our Solar Hands website is devoted to this.

And secondly, after working out parental programs, when you will have access to your true essence of a woman, to your subconscious, ask yourself: “And what kind of woman do I want to become?”, “And what kind of relationship do I want to have with a man?” and dream.

Believe me, your subconscious mind will answer you and will definitely give an image of both coquetry and an image of your happiness with a man and everything that you ask him about.

And finally, a small addition. Do not work with all programs at once, but first with one, then with the second, and so on.

And most importantly, remember that it takes from 2 to 4 months of daily work to erase one program and form a new image. And a year later, the training needs to be repeated, since parental programs are very strong and are not worked out at a time.

Sincerely, Anastasia Guy.

How to change generic scripts

and live a harmonious and happy life?

Family and clan is the place where we are born, grow up and learn to build a relationship model. Therefore, it is no coincidence that many problems, complexes, fears come from our childhood. How often do you get the feeling that the same situation is repeated in your life again and again. It's like you're living the script you've already written. Who wrote this script, can it be changed? The answers to all these questions can be found in your Family.

The energy of the family is basic for a person, a person is born with it, it accompanies him all his life. Our family is an inexhaustible source of strength. Rod supports us in difficult times. By invisible threads we are connected with our ancestors. But the negative influence of the family on our destiny is also possible. The wrong actions of our ancestors attract situations in which the role of the “victim” is already assigned to us. You can change this by bringing love and harmony to your family.

This training is for those who want to:

• Explore the energies of a kind and work out generic blockages.
• Change your negative programs sort of positive
• Get rid of your inner barriers and fears
• Get rid of accumulated negative emotions about past relationships and get rid of past grievances
• Open and strengthen your femininity and sexuality, remove the masculine style of behavior
• Resolve parenting issues
• Establish harmony in relationships and build a strong family

1 day: Friday

18:00-20:00 Refuse male behavior, learn to use female qualities for real.

• scenarios of femininity and masculinity

• analysis of male and female qualities and strategies in their behavioral scenario, taken from the family
• and what does it mean "to be a woman" and why it is good to be her
• differences between men and women: energy and intelligence
• male and female qualities and roles that we took from our parents
• how to convey masculine qualities to a man
• identification of negative generic attitudes

Day 2 Saturday

10:00 – 12:00 Rewriting the negative generic script into a positive one

Ancestral messages - messages that go to children from elders: from parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles. These are patterns of behavior that we adopt from childhood and are so accustomed to them that we do not see anything shameful in them. Thus, it is formed generic scenario. Meanwhile, in the most familiar things, we sometimes receive directives from elders to live suffering like them.

During this lesson, we will reveal what situations came to you in your reality from your ancestors, according to what kind of ancestral message you live. And change the minus to a plus. Let's rewrite the old negative programs of suffering for new positive harmony and love.

We will also consider scenarios and laws of the Family.

• Ownership Law
• Law of Hierarchy
• energy flow law
• balance law.

12:00 – 13:00 Lunch

13:00 – 15:00 Communication with the family: family tree

A person's family tree has a great influence on a person's life. It consists of 7 generations.
Your life largely depends on their life achievements and mistakes. Through practice, we:

• we realize and cleanse the family from blocking programs and scripts
• we will establish a favorable flow of energies in the family
• harmonize family relationships.
• we will acquire the strength, knowledge, skill and wealth of our great-grandfathers in order to pass them on to our children
• reconnect with the grandparents for advice and tips in life

15:15 - 18:00 Dive deep into the 7 generations of the female line.

Relationships with your mother affect your self-confidence, sexuality and relationships with men. Your relationship with your mother also affects the difficulties in your life. It is the maternal race that fills you with basic self-confidence. When all the women of the family support you, you feel their strength and power behind you. During this lesson, we will restore the connection with the maternal family and fill it with love and purity, we will receive a blessing from all the women of the family.

• Purification of the female line for 7 generations ago
• Obtaining the power of the foremother of the clan
• Meditation for Healing the Interrupted Flow of Love and Opening/Increasing Sexuality

Day 3

10:00-12:00 Relationships between children and parents.

• The laws family relations: what children should and what parents should.
• Me and my mother, my relationship with her. Rules for communicating with mom
• Me and dad, my relationship with him. Rules for communicating with dad.
• Forgiving Parents Meditation and Healing the Inner Child

• Relationships with siblings.
• Scenarios of relationships with our children

12:00-13:00 - Lunch

13:00-15:00 Receiving the blessing of the family for prosperity

• Let's strengthen the wings of our kind, which will saturate us with energy and strength in later life.
• We will understand, realize and create a positive scenario for our financial well-being

• We will receive the resources of our kind for the harmonious development of our personality

Presenter: Tanita Tali, dream coach, female happiness coach, vedic astrologer

Do you know what generic scenarios, weaves are? Do you know how they affect you? And do you know what can be done about it?

Those who do not know anything about this sometimes pass by skeptically, considering all this nonsense. And in vain. Sometimes believers ignore this topic, considering it to be some kind of occult and wrong. And also in vain.

What are generic scenarios?

According to our karma, we come to a certain family, to a certain family with certain tasks. The family is "selected" in such a way that it helps us a lot in this. For example, if the soul needs to learn to forgive, it can be very offended. And the closest. If a soul needs to learn to respect men in a female body, it can be given a female clan where men are not kept and hated.

This is from a karmic point of view. With the usual - everything is easier. There is how your mother or grandmother lives life. And you may not like it. But a certain number of years pass - and suddenly you realize that your life is largely a carbon copy. The same husband was chosen. They behaved the same way with him. Children were brought up in the same way, although they swore to themselves that they would never and never. You even scold them with the same words.

Yes, psychologists have already told everyone that the main ways of responding and behaving are laid in a child up to 7 years old at most. What he sees, then he will then reproduce, If he does not turn on awareness (and this is good news).

And then it’s easier - where did our mothers get their way of responding from? From their mothers, They from theirs and so on. So many people with traumas and dramas have left their mark on our behavior! And what was normal for them is already disturbing us. For example, if a grandmother after the war, where she experienced famine, ate everything for everyone and forced everyone, then this is completely useless to you, and there are already weight problems. But still, for some reason, you eat up, for everyone.

There are a million such programs. There are good ones, there are bad ones. Well, how bad - not very useful to us now. And once they could save someone in our family. Some of us interfere with life, others do not. After all, we don’t think about every act and word, we do a lot on the “machine”. but we do not think by whom, when and how this "machine" was recorded. And recorded - all of our kind.

And then the question arises - how to neutralize these scripts? How not to pass them on to your children? How to remove excess weight from life? Work off karma to make life easier? Or to finally get married or have a baby? Is it possible to somehow discard them, to get rid of their influence?

Heal scripts kind of?

Most often I get asked this question. About how to forgive and accept your parents, how to stop repeating their fate, how to break out of ancestral predestination, how not to pass all this on to your children. Family ties can give us strength, or they can take it away. They can be the basis of strong relationships, or they can be constant stress that destroys them. They can be the cause of joy, or they can be the cause of our tears.

When situations break into our lives from which we feel pain, anger, resentment, disappointment - what to do with it? Is it always our feelings and are we always in control? Can we always and easily change it ourselves?

Since I am familiar with the ancestral laws, I understand that our karma comes to us through ancestral ties. We do not get there by chance, and not just like that. For some reason. And the problems of the genus are our own unexplored places. But in this life a lot can be changed. Including - relations with the clan - which is tantamount to facilitating karma as such.

Have you ever gone through forgiveness and letting go trainings - and then realized that nothing has passed - nothing has been forgiven and released? I remember that Marina Targakova spoke about this phenomenon: “I forgave according to Luula Viilma, I forgave according to Louise Hay, I forgave according to Sviyash ....” This is very familiar to me, I almost had it. You forgive, you forgive, but for some reason you can't forgive.

Does this always mean that we do not work well and make little effort? Or are we just digging the garden with a fork?

For me, working with generic programs has become a reliable shovel - with the help of which you can weed out weeds and plant rose bushes much faster and better. With his help, I was finally able to weed a couple of long overgrown beds.

In what situations can working with gender help (not necessarily 100% improvement):

• Build relationships with parents - or at least take the first step in this direction
• Build relationships with a partner
• Resolve relationship issues with children
• Understand why love in life does not happen and does not work
• Forgive and let go of someone who should have been let go
• Consider your relationship with money
• Find and neutralize energy leakage points
• To see places where life becomes a vicious circle and try to open it
• See your life through another glass
• Understand where we are really going and why

This is not a 100% cure guarantee. Not a panacea! Please understand that this is only a tool for working with your inner world, in which there can be different complexities, except for generic scenarios. In addition to family ties, we are also influenced by how we ourselves behave today, what we do, where we strive. For example, sometimes only a generic program prevents a girl from getting married. And sometimes - and her unwillingness to change, take care of herself and communicate with those who are ready to take care of her. That means you have to work both ways. To change both the "past" - more precisely, the attitude towards it (this is the most important thing), and one's behavior today. But it is more profitable to call all this the crown of celibacy and go to fortune-tellers, renting it for money.

Where are the real problems?

And of course, most of problems are usually not somewhere there, but much closer. I remember those arrangements that I once led. How the girls sat down and said that they knew for sure that this problem was from great-great-grandmother. But when we started working, it turned out that everything rests on my mother. And it is pointless to dig further and deeper if not everything is harmonious with the parents (and who is harmonious?). Therefore, you need to start with them. When it comes to parenting in a seminar, it always has powerful implications. Many questions, many emotions, tears and worries. That is, for the majority, the topic is one way or another painful. And only after working through this layer is it worth going further and deeper. Having established relationships with parents in your heart, you can already solve half the problems!

Judge for yourself.

Difficult relationship with mother for a girl:

• are an obstacle to obtaining the female power of the genus
• affect her ability to love and build relationships
• affect her motherhood and the feeling of being in it
• especially affect the relationship with the daughter
• have a huge impact on her self-esteem.
• negatively affect her desire to be a woman
• create problems in the left half of her body (this is where diseases accumulate)
• do not give a complete feeling of happiness (mother is the very first love of any person!)

Difficult relationship with dad

• have a strong influence on her attitude towards men
• affect her ability to find herself in the outside world (compare how the number of children without fathers or their participation and those who cannot find themselves grows)
• create financial problems - as a consequence of relations in the outside world
• complicate relations with sons
• create problems in the right half of the body (this is where diseases accumulate in this case)

Let us add that any grievances corrode our soul, bring a lot of suffering and problems. The longer you wear it, the stronger the "toxic poisoning". And we bear grudges against our parents for 20-30-40-... years...

Then the healing should begin with them. From parents. Dads and moms. Both. No matter how scary and difficult it is. And then - if necessary - move on. Realizing what programs you have, how they affect you - and gradually change your behavior, perception. It's possible.

I constantly invite you to watch a video where I talk a lot about myself, about what trends were and are in my family, and how difficult it was for me to overcome them. And many still live with me - for now. About the fact that I am from the "women's clan", where women raise children themselves, where they work themselves and are generally very strong. About the fact that only at almost 30 years old I visited my father’s grave for the first time and saw him as he was during his lifetime. And much more. This is real. At the same time, learning to respect men and save not just a family, but also love in it is real.

Here's the video again :) Haven't you seen it? Check it out for sure!

The main thing is to want and start changing. Small steps. And if you want this, are ready for it, then I invite you to a marathon for the healing of generic scenarios, where we will take small steps towards healing. 60 days we will go! Together! And it's easier together!

Of course, in 60 days we will not be the most completely mentally healthy. But it will definitely get easier. And understanding and awareness will also increase. Are you with us?

Many stereotypes of family relationships have been strengthened for decades and go through generations, which is why they are called generic scenarios. The generic scenario for the development of interpersonal relationships in marriage is the strongest program, compiled unconsciously and embedded in a person by his parents. Psychologists have established a connection between the behavior of an individual in marriage and inherited attitudes, therefore, if you have identified negative birth scenarios, hurry to change them correctly. That is why, when working with married couples, psychologists are often interested in behavior patterns in the families of their parents. The script for the development of interpersonal relationships, which was unconsciously laid in you by your parents and now prevents you from building your family, can be corrected together with a psychologist.

Generic scenarios for the development of interpersonal relationships: genogram

Today it is no longer a secret that all people want a happy family life, but, nevertheless, they can exist in conflict relationships and not strive to change anything, because they simply do not realize given fact. This means that he is looking for exactly such partners, or the spouse begins to correspond to the role assigned to him in a pair earlier. All generic scenarios simply need to be worked out, since this component self-improvement, if you want to learn how to change yourself, that is, self-improvement within the framework of marital partnerships and look for ways to best work with them.
Thus, in order to build a genogram, you need to find out as much information as possible about parents and older relatives. Murray Bowen found that a stereotype of behavior becomes a solid script for family life approximately at the third repetition. This means that if over the course of two generations male alcoholics come across as husbands, then the third cannot be called a coincidence. Such a negative generic scenario for the development of interpersonal relationships will always haunt a woman until the moment when she starts working with a psychologist in this direction. It is important to realize that even if a woman marries an athlete, he will eventually begin to play the role required of him, laid down in her generation.
The psychologist, working with the genogram method, writes in a diagram that displays various generic scenarios for the development of interpersonal relationships, such facts as: alcoholism, suicides, abortions, arrests, premature deaths, specific illnesses, divorces, widowhood, lovelace husbands, kept wives, the number children. The age of the most significant events in life is also important: marriage, the birth of the first child, the death of parents. Murray Bowen argues that with two coincidences of an event or age, the probability of repeating a third time is extremely high.
In addition, the psychologist Bowen considers the emotional background of the family to be important, which also tends to be transmitted through generations. The author identifies three types:

• Dominance of emotions;
• dominance of the intellect;
• Mixed look.