Monotonous everyday life, rare weekends, poor work and lack of money often awaken in people the desire to find meaning and purpose in life. This is quite natural. Boredom is the best motivator to change your life.
When you know what to do, there is no time to be bored.
Where do you start looking for a purpose?
Our mind plays an exciting game with us. First, he drives us into a corner and then insistently demands to get out of there. Personalities are crowded in the corner, there is nowhere to live ...
We create 99% of our problems ourselves. For this reason, the first thing to start with is to love the current problems. Overcoming them, we grow, become better, stronger, more successful, happier, etc.
I remember my first business experience. I quit my job, started reading Kiyosaki's books and tried to do something. I consulted on finance, made websites, tried to speculate in stocks, planned to buy and sell garages. Three months later, my savings were almost gone. I was very upset, because. realized that my attempt to become a businessman had failed. I thought for a long time about the injustice of fate. I just hated the whole situation...
But then I realized that I was doing complete nonsense (I want to say it harder). Stocks, garages, finances - all this is not mine. Yes, and I was completely unprepared for business (it turns out that two books read are not enough).
I clearly remember that at that moment I thanked fate for the fact that I had little savings. If there was more money in the account, I would have wasted much more time and money. I remember that then I walked joyfully around my room and repeated: "It's good that I had little money."
This story ended with the fact that I quickly got a great hired job.
The first task is to love what is bad now and understand what opportunities it gives.
You will immediately feel calmer.
Life is more important than work
Nowadays there is a lot of crappy work, and many people want to find what they love. That's good, but it's a bit lopsided to start with just that. Favorite thing is wider than 40 hours a week. Physically, of course, it lets us go home, but in the soul it is always with us. This kind of thing has a profound effect on our lives.
Therefore, you need to start with an understanding of your “beloved life”. Deeds should be for life, not life for deeds.
Here is another case from life. Once upon a time, I was reading Norbekov's book about a healthy lifestyle and came across his story about how he went on a two-week business trip to a Crimean sanatorium for children. It’s hard for me to quote, but he said something like this: “I went there for 2 weeks, but stayed for a whole year. I was given a problem that I had to solve. I had a lot of fun doing it."
Then I thought to myself about what kind of life you need to have in order to go somewhere for 2 weeks, but stay of your own free will for a whole year. What did his wife say? What did she do? Where were his children at that moment? How did he arrange everything?
Honestly, I want to have the same freedom. For this reason, I choose a business that allows me and my family to go to another city or country and work from there. For me, this is an extremely important criterion for choosing my business.
Now look at your life:
- What criteria are important to you?
- How do you want to live? Describe the desired events and processes.
Primarily determine for yourself your favorite life and only after that look for your own business. It is life that determines the criteria for the activities you want to do.
Finding your purpose in life means determining what you want to live for.
Purpose and work of your life
Every work is done for something. It is important to understand why you are doing this or that, why you are fond of this particular hobby, why do you need a chosen hobby, etc. Answering the “why” question is the key to finding your purpose in life.
A business that you want to live and do, approach you from all sides:
- Values. Your purpose.
- Abilities, skills and talents.
- Character.
Values
Simply put, values are true and externally imposed. Separating one from the other is not an easy job, but it is quite real.
To understand what is truly valuable, it is not enough to find only what you like. There are things and events in the world that you strongly hate when they happen “wrong” and love with all your heart when they happen “right”.
I will give a simple example. You are walking through a summer clean pine forest. Enjoy. Suddenly, next to one of the pines, you see bottles, cans and pieces of paper that have been dumped. Send curses on those who did this, and complain about their irresponsibility and lack of culture.
This is an example of a found value. Clean forest, good ecology, nature or call it in your own words. All this is one of the areas of true interests.
What do you want to change in the world?
What do not you like
Look at the world around.
- What do you strongly dislike? Observe yourself, write down your discoveries in a notebook.
- Which of these would you like change? What would you like to make better in this world?
I want to warn you right away. If you look into your wallet and realize that there is not enough money and immediately decide that you want to change it, it will be a mistake. Money in this case will not be your true value. Money and wealth can be valuable if you look into your neighbor's wallet, gasp and help him get rich. Your desire to change something should always be directed to other people or external objects.
Your task is to look at the outside of the world, because this is where your mission and your destiny “look”.
- What do you want to change in the world?
- What do you want to do for other people?
What you can't help but do
Sometimes you may notice that there are things that you cannot help but do. Each of you has such cases.
Imagine a person who cannot but give advice, cannot help but teach, guide other people. Surely each of you has at least one such acquaintance. It is sometimes difficult with such a person, he may not feel the inappropriateness of his advice. BUT imagine if this person is a coach, teacher or preacher. He gets paid money for something he can't help but do. This is an example of an ideal situation.
What can't you do?
Sometimes it will be difficult for you to find the answer to the question “why am I doing this?” This is normal, put such cases on the list too. Mothers do not understand why they love their children. They love them and everything.
- What are you always doing (even if no one cares about it but you)?
- What can't you do?
Be sure to write down your findings in a notebook.
Abilities, skills, talents
What are you good at? What do you like to do?
Cooking, sewing, fixing cars, tinkering with computers, cleaning, playing musical instruments, boxing or dancing… What do you have in your arsenal?
What do you still not know how to do, but want to learn? Draw, pull up 100 times, drive a car, make flowers, master apartment renovation, program or throw knives. Something must be on your wish list. What's this?
Here it is important not to be modest and find 30 of your abilities and desires. Better if there are 50 of them.
So, take your notebook again and write down the answers (be sure to write with your hands!)
- What are you good at? What do you like to do?
- What do you want to learn?
- What do your acquaintances, colleagues and friends appreciate in you?
Character features
We are all unique and each of us has our own characteristics. Someone is diligent, someone is active and ultra-mobile, someone likes to work in a team, while another prefers silence and individual work. Categorical, sociability, a sharp sense of humor, excellent endurance or physical strength, etc.
A character trait isn't necessarily something you're good at. It's just what it is. Your given.
- What is your "feature"?
- What are you?
Again, take a notepad and write it down. It is better to score 30-50 of your character traits.
Answer on the surface
Your favorite thing is at the intersection of values, character and abilities. You should be pleased to do what you do, you should see the meaning and value in it for others, it should be easy and understandable for you, failures should motivate you to study, the morning should always be kind and promising a lot of work ...
In theory, everything is simple, but in practice it is difficult to understand.
The method is essentially the same- allocate special time for yourself (when no one will disturb you) and ask yourself questions. Regular practice will surely lead you to the right answers.
A vocation is not earned in life - one is born with it. Yes Yes. The role of a person appears long before his birth.
The wise Chinese are aware of this and help children decide on a mission in their first years of life. When a child turns one year old, various objects are placed in front of him: a pencil, money, a book, and others. What the child will reach for right away will be prompted by his life choice. Such a test in early childhood is not in vain. After all, the closer a profession is to a life calling, the more a person experiences happiness.
Finding your definition in life is actually not difficult.
Simple ways to find your purpose
First, be honest about whether you need to know about it. After all, finding your calling is only half the battle. The most interesting will begin later: it must be followed. Knowing your role in life and not sticking to it is a real punishment. If it's easier for you to live as you live, and not suffer from the search for happiness - to your health. And if you decide to find out what is in my life and why I came, then let's get started:
- Look at your past and trace what occupation, hobby has remained with you since early childhood? In life, many dreams were eliminated, but you still have a love for some business.
- Imagine that you have 1 billion dollars and there is no need to earn money. What would you do?
- Write down all your current activities, including work and hobbies. Stop over each of the points and listen to yourself: what do you feel? If the soul is easy, then the occupation is close to your main role in fate. If it’s hard, it means that you are doing it out of necessity: you wanted to become an artist, but life forced you to start a business.
- Looking in the mirror in the morning, ask yourself: “If I were allowed to do what I want, what would I choose (a)?” Listen to the first answer that comes to mind.
- What is the highest happiness in life for me? And there is nothing more than this happiness!
- Give yourself ten minutes and write down on a piece of paper the answers to the question “What is my purpose?” Write everything in a row without thinking. Usually the social responses “to be successful”, “to have a family and children”, imposed by society, come immediately. Then school dreams “to become a teacher or a doctor” will come, and only then, when there are more than 50 points, thoughts close to the true vocation will begin to hatch.
- If all the previous methods did not give anything sensible, there is a method of "going from the opposite." What do you dislike the most? Now identify the activity opposite to the answer to this question. Perhaps you will get a hint.
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Often people laugh at those who follow the call of the heart. Like, asking how to find your destiny is stupidity, “the main thing is to be able to earn money, and don’t worry about the rest!” Do not pay attention. Often people speak envy and anger when they meet a free person who does what he loves. After all, the only real luxury in this world is to be yourself. I wish you luck, friend!
Do you remember the famous expression: he is a teacher (doctor, cook, musician, etc.) - from God? What is it about? I think about purpose. Purpose is the tasks with which each of us comes into this world, supported by the talents given to us from birth. This is the answer to the question “why? (I'm here)".
Is it possible to limit this concept one global life goal? Hardly. Each soul has tasks of 3 directions:
- in relation to oneself (self-development, mental health, realization of potential),
- in relation to their relatives and friends (care for them, harmonization of relations, etc.),
- implemented for the benefit of other people, society or the surrounding world.
Purpose from the point of view of public benefit is the mission of man on earth. In the context of this article, we will first of all talk about it, because. this is what people often mean when they ask the question “how to find or realize your destiny?”. And this is quite understandable, because. the path of a developed personality: from inside to outside. An immature soul is characterized by consumer behavior under the motto “everything is for me!”, A mature soul has a persistent need to create and give the fruits of its activity, to benefit others.
When does the realization of purpose come?
The ability to feel ourselves and our deepest aspirations is inherent in us from birth. Remember children - if you watch them, you will notice that everyone has their own interests, games and, in general, a way of knowing and interacting with the world. But in the process of education, the influence of society, the ideology adopted in society, for many, this ability is dulled. Fortunately, not everyone. If the child is not interfered with, but conditions are created, he develops in a direction that is interesting to him and knows how to make a dividing line between his own and the alien. He may not yet be familiar with the adult word "destiny", but he deeply feels the desires of his soul. And builds his life path according to them. This is the ideal option.
The next important stage in life is the choice of a profession after graduation. Even if the child has been weaned from hearing himself, at this difficult moment his soul will be able to give call signs. Sensitivity and trust on the part of parents and teachers are needed. Do not force the right solution, but allow the teenager to look inside himself and find the right answer there. Ask the right questions for a three-dimensional presentation. Help with information if needed.
But more often in reality, one can observe such a situation - an adult in his 30s or 40s, who has been living for many years with other people's goals and stereotypes imposed from the outside - received an education where his parents attached him, worked for money or positions, surrounded himself with status things in order to be no worse than others - and then suddenly, in the middle of his life, the so-called. existential crisis under the question “why am I actually living?”. It seems that everything is there in the material plane, but it does not bring joy. An almost revolutionary situation is brewing, when it is no longer possible to live in the old way, but it is not known how to live in a new way. This is a good sign!
If a person does not save, does not turn back, from this point his inner maturation and return to himself will begin. A significant bonus of this process can be just the realization of one's own destiny, and then the ability to realize oneself in accordance with it. Yes, exactly in this sequence: spiritual and personal growth - the search for a destiny - its awareness and self-realization. This path is the most difficult, but incredibly interesting!
How long does it take to find and realize your purpose?
It all depends on the degree of expression of the desire to find it and on how far a person has gone from himself. The longer you left, the longer the way back. Independent searches for a destination usually take months and years, with an assistant - faster.
From personal experience: it took me a total of about 6 years to finally understand my purpose and realize it in my professional activities.
On the example of my clients: the longest search experience took about 5 months of our active work in the coaching format.
Is the purpose related to professional activity?
Yes and no. If we leave out the tasks of the soul in relation to itself and the inner circle, as described above, and consider the purpose as a socially useful activity, it may not always be of a professional nature. For example, a woman is born to be a mother, more often a mother with many children. Or take care of homeless animals. Or do charity work, participate in volunteer projects. Other examples of such activities that benefit others, but are not related to the profession and the desire to earn income from it, can be cited. Why not? This is also the destiny of man, his mission on earth.
Are purpose and calling the same thing?
But the realization of the destination through professional activity is a vocation. The latter is a broader concept, since in addition to the mission, it also relies on the talents, knowledge and skills of a person, as well as his ability to make money on it. Passion is also an important ingredient in the “vocation” cocktail, just like love for work in highest point its manifestations. It has been noted that when we live in harmony with our soul, we are attracted by exactly what we came to this world for - this built-in magnet does not allow us to go astray. And talents and abilities are given to help us. Thus, the kneading of the concept of "vocation" includes:
- purpose (mission);
- interest, love for work, passion;
- innate talents, abilities;
- acquired knowledge, skills and abilities;
- the demand for the results of human activity, the willingness of others to pay for them.
I repeat that without the main component - the purpose - engaging in an interesting business using one's abilities and the opportunity to earn money on it will remain only a variant of work for oneself, based on a consumer position. There is no service here. As a rule, this does not bring deep satisfaction to a mature personality.
Purpose and calling by examples
Let's assume that our purpose is realized as "helping people become better". Further clarification is needed - in what exactly people should change with our help. Develop business qualities, become more merciful, improve health, improve appearance, etc.? Suppose we decide that our mission is to help people become healthier. What professional activity will help us realize this mission? Options: Specialist healthy lifestyle life, pharmacist, doctor, food technologist, sports trainer, nutritionist, etc. As we can see, there are quite a lot of spheres and areas and they are diverse. But then our task is to determine what exactly we want and can do. This will be our calling.
Can the purpose (mission) change or be revised during life?
I guess not. Forms of realization of the destination - yes, they can. Before we begin to create value for the world and give it away, we must receive ourselves - knowledge, skills, experience. Therefore, we often go our own way in an ornate way, through various formats of activity, but the global goal does not change, although it is not always immediately realized.
For example, back in 2001, having worked for several years as a chief accountant, at the call of my heart I really wanted to open my own recruitment agency, but I had no experience in such a business. Created. As it turned out, it was too early - I clearly lacked knowledge of technologies in the HR sphere, but I could not study them, work as a hired chief accountant and at the same time develop my business. A year later, she closed it and continued to manage the accounting department, where, in addition to her main functions, she actively participated in hiring and registering employees, training subordinates, and voluntarily advised colleagues and acquaintances on where and what kind of work they should look for. At the same time I studied psychology (for myself, as it seemed to me) and the basics of personnel management. Another year has passed and I light hand his loved one I finally left accounting for business education and HR. As an employee. And she continued to advise and employ people - and in order to fulfill her official duties and as a favorite hobby. Until one day I realized that this was my calling)) And the experience as an HR specialist was needed as a foundation for my future activities. Back in 2001, without him, I tried writing, but it was still too early.
Another important conclusion follows from this: purpose is not an activity that you love and CAN do, but one that you CANNOT NOT do. Feel the difference? You don't need to persuade yourself, you just do it and that's it, with joy, at every opportunity, regardless of the weather, nature, dollar exchange rate, your professional status or the mood of your boss.
How to find or recognize your purpose?
First and the main condition is to really want to find it and be ready to accept it. Without conditions. If you set yourself up in advance that you may not like it or you won’t earn much on it, then it’s better not to start. Or it's too early. Remember about spiritual growth and personal maturity?
Second- develop the ability to hear and feel. Deep. Rational thinking can be useful, but it rarely gives correct answers to the existential questions of being, more often leads astray. Listen to your soul, inner voice, intuition, or whatever you personally call it. If they still have little confidence - double-check, do not rush. Spiritual or bodily practices, meditation, fasting and other tools that open access to the subconscious can help here.
Third follows from the conclusion made in the previous section. remember and analyze. What are you willing to do whenever possible, whether you are paid or not? Where does your deepest interest lie? You need to dig here.
Fourth- act. Think, observe, try options, try on yourself different kinds activities and, most importantly, ask questions. Himself, the Universe, God, the Higher Mind - who believes in what. When the question is clearly formulated, the answer will always come. Perhaps not immediately or not from the source we expect. It is important to be sensitive, tune in to listening.
If there are difficulties with this or you want to solve the problem faster, you can seek help from a career consultant or coach, soul specialist, psychologist and other specialists.
And the last How do you know that you have found your purpose? When it is IT, you will be overwhelmed with feelings and emotions. Laughter, tears, delight, a sense of relief - everyone has their own palette and temperature of experiences, but your reaction will undoubtedly be brighter than when you mentally sort through other options.
Prioritization. When it's not up to the destination
It also happens that a person has realized the purpose and even understood how he can realize it professionally, but it is not yet possible to translate these conclusions into a practical plane. There are more important life tasks. For example, help and care is required for one of the weak relatives. Or the situation forces you to retire for a while in order to recover from professional burnout, to reboot. Or you need to provide the necessary level of income for survival right now (not to be confused with the need to sacrifice part of your usual comfort - this is different, we are talking about survival). And so on. Yes, sometimes it's not the right time. But do not discard the idea of self-realization in accordance with your destiny at all, just move it to 2-3-5 place in the list of priorities. And wait for the right moment - it will definitely come if you have firmly decided for yourself to do what you came into this world for.
Is it possible to earn on purpose?
As we have already found out, the purpose is not always associated with professional activities, therefore, generating income may not be its goal. Here it is more appropriate to talk about calling. It is in the vocation that our greatest opportunities to earn money are buried. But the path of development in it is not fast, because the skill needs to be developed and polished. Therefore, expect high earnings in short term it would be naive. But in the long term, creative activity by vocation will bring maximum income - for this market, in comparable conditions, compared with peers or competitors. After all, money is the equivalent of the energy expended and the value that we give to the world. Therefore, when the matter is chosen by the soul and benefits others, our return is maximum.
I think each of us can remember a familiar hairdresser, car mechanic, dressmaker, dentist or lawyer, whose services are much more in demand than his many colleagues. He was once recommended to us and we, in turn, pass on his contacts to our friends with the most flattering reviews. We see and understand: a specialist in his place! Do you think this place provides him with an inexhaustible stream of customers and a regular income? ;)
But the whole point is that money for such an enthusiastic pro is secondary. Remember how they say in such cases: I do what I love, but I still get paid for it? As clients, we always feel what a specialist does his job for. And if the idea is put at the forefront, and not the fee, it is doubly pleasant and money is not a pity.
I remember an example from my youth. My classmate had gorgeous hair - long, thick, lush, wavy. Once she decided to cut her hair under the caret, although we dissuaded her. Went to a famous hairdresser. When she returned, she said: she came to the salon, sat down in an armchair, he gathered her hair with his hands, shook it, it scattered over her shoulders ... He looked thoughtfully, and then softly said: girl, go, I won’t cut you. And she left, in her original form and in bewilderment ... And the next time I thanked him mentally. We gave him a standing ovation. This is called skill. Work for the best result, even if it is not associated with income here and now. Believe me, he did not lose in money, because. after that incident, a line of us lined up for him)) Although he had not been idle before.
I repeat: not immediately, having embarked on the path of self-realization, you can count on a high income. It takes patience, development and time. But the sooner you realize your purpose and begin to follow it, the faster you will hone your skills and learn to get great satisfaction from the lesson itself, and then a worthy monetary reward will come. The road will be mastered by the walking one!
Good luck with your search!
Galina Bobkova, career and self-realization consultant
In Vedic astrology, when it comes to finding your destiny, there are two factors. The first is general, that is, the purpose is male and female. The second factor is personal purpose, which is determined by the map of a person.
In a general sense, the purpose of a woman is to become a good mother and wife, to realize herself in family life, support and guide your man. Then she will be happy on a deep level, satisfied and calm. The male destiny is to be responsible for the family, earnings and protection.
How to find your purpose with the help of a natal chart
Vedic astrology gives an answer on how to find your destiny, but this will require you to analyze several aspects:
- 1 house- the house of personality, the backbone of the horoscope, the most important, indicating not only health, the physical body, but also the subtle, spiritual, your aspirations, self-confidence. If the 1st house is weak, then a person, no matter what he undertakes, gives up, does not receive satisfaction - neither moral nor material. Therefore, it is important here to throw all the forces into the harmonization of the first house.
- Position of the lord of the 1st house- we look to understand the main aspirations of a person, the scope of his realization in this life, what is destined. Lagnesh in the 1st house is considered strong and favorable, it gives self-confidence, great opportunities for self-realization in life.
- Atma-karaka and its position in the chart is the planet with the maximum degree, indicating the main task, the destination from above, the true desires of our soul.
If atma-karaka - Sun, then fame in society, power, success in business, justice are important for a person.
Moon: the spiritual destiny of a person is care, love for neighbors, help and service to them.
Mars: deep aspirations are associated with victories, adventures, achievements.
Mercury: intellectual superiority, it is this that helps to achieve the desired heights.
Jupiter: Spirituality, ministry, religiosity, caring for children
Venus: aspirations are associated with relationships, desires.
Saturn: makes a person strive for the truth all his life, seek and defend the truth, develop spiritually, serve people.
Rahu: the most important thing is also in service - people, the world, the desire to make this planet better.
- 10 house- indicates the profession, career aspirations of a person, as well as how a person can be realized in this life. It is also easy to determine from this house whether the leader is in front of us or the follower, the humanist, the logician, the analyst or the technician in the mindset. If a person is not satisfied with his work, does not benefit people, does not invest positive emotions and desire in the labor process, does everything “leave me alone”, then the 10th house closes and it becomes more and more difficult to achieve professional success.
How to understand that you are not fulfilling your destiny
Many people do not think at all how to find their purpose for a long time. They just live, work, but one day they realize that everything is going wrong. Life passes by without giving joy, satisfaction, peace of mind and comfort.
You can also determine that you are not realizing yourself by the following parameters:
you by different reasons often change jobs, field of activity;
often get sick, like to be on sick leave, since Monday you have been looking forward to the weekend;
you get very tired at work - physically and mentally, you feel a lack of strength, depression;
often go to work "under duress", only because of the money;
get a job where your relatives send you, do not have own opinion and desires.
It is very important to determine your purpose and outline ways for its realization in life. This will give new strength, inspiration and joy every day. And Lakshmi's school of astrology can help you with this. It was on training that many students found their destiny, they enjoy working, incomes grow up and they are happy. If you also want, then write to us Vkontakte
A few months ago, I decided to launch my own online job search and career consulting project. After a while, I noticed that among the standard questions of my clients “how to compose”, “how to behave in an interview”, I very often hear a completely different, deeper request: “how to understand what I like to do?” and “how to start doing what you love and connect it with work?”.
It turned out that my clients aged 25 to 35 do not experience satisfaction from the mere presence of a prestigious job with a good salary, but make completely different demands on the job and the employer. It is important for them that they enjoy the activity (more and more people want a free schedule and remote work), and they also prefer to understand some deep meaning of their activity and know what benefits it will bring.
Naturally, with such high expectations, these people are doomed to constant dissatisfaction with their work. Not having a clear idea of their interests or not finding an opportunity to combine them with work, “shifting papers” from 9 to 18 in the office instead of saving the world, they get less and less pleasure from work. Yearning, they cherish the dream of dropping everything and leaving for the warmth, in order to indulge in the search for themselves and their vocation, hoping to find a magical recipe for a harmonious cocktail of pleasure, meaning and work.
In my opinion, such a trip will be just a change of scenery. Will there be an answer? Maybe. But I don't think it's necessary to travel far for that. I am convinced that each of us deep down knows his calling. It’s just that someone reveals it at the age of four, and someone remembers at 80. But no matter how old you are, the search for a vocation is always an exciting journey and not at all to a tropical country! And it is also painstaking, jewelry work that requires courage, creativity and perseverance. Indeed, in order to prepare your exclusive culinary masterpiece, it is not enough to find good recipe. You will have to first learn how to cook it, and then experiment many times to find the ideal proportions and your own unique ingredients.
For my clients, I decided to study in detail the scope of the search for a vocation, collect the maximum and choose the best. In the last three months of deep diving alone, I have accumulated more than 100 exercises, and yet I just opened the door to this interesting world. Some exercises are hints and help to determine the vocation, others allow you to transform it into new job or to harmonize with the existing one. I am happy to share my findings with you!
For those who are ready to go on an independent journey, I have compiled a universal route in seven days. Naturally, the timing for each will be individual. Perhaps someone will find the answer on the first day, and someone will need to take a break after each task for thoughtful reflection. But the timing is not the most important thing, especially if the trip is exciting. Well, are you ready? Go!
The first day. Look into the future and dream
Our fantasies are not only a storehouse of information about ourselves and our goals, but also a powerful source of motivation for their realization. To make it easier to fantasize, let's play a game. Imagine that you are a kind of hundred-year-old dreamer-lucky. Not only did you live in your mind and health to such a serious name day, you were also incredibly lucky in life, and you achieved fantastic success in everything you undertook. Healthy, prosperous, live in abundance, in a word, prosper. Your relatives and friends have gathered to congratulate you and celebrate this significant event with you. Or maybe not only friends, but also reporters, the press, celebrities ...
Represented? And now remember your whole happy life, full of interesting and exciting events. What were you doing? What they were doing? Where, in what environment? Who was next to you? What did you feel? Describe your lifestyle, everything that was important to you, all areas of life. Preferably on paper or in a text editor.
Then read your text, preferably out loud, paying attention to how you feel and how your voice sounds. Do you really want these fantasies to become reality? Are you ready to try?
In order to be where you want to be in 100 years, you need to start the path in the chosen direction right now.
Second day. Allow yourself everything and dream
Very often, our calling is hidden somewhere between the area of our interests, the sphere of innermost desires and a few deeply hidden and forgotten childhood dreams. We are so afraid of this Pandora's box that we hide it far away in the closet of our memory, so that later we can hastily push into it everything that we wanted, but did not come true, was planned, but did not come true. And then forget.
In order to open the veil and take another step towards your calling, you will need to get this box, blow off the dust and carefully shake out everything that you stuffed into it. Think of all your dreams, desires, interests, and everything you've ever wanted to try, and write it down. To complete the picture, add a list of improbabilities to them. Do not limit your imagination: the more points you write, even the most ridiculous ones, the better. Let them be 100 or more, but not less than 20.
By the way, this exercise has an interesting side effect. Save the list and check it after a while. Some of your wishes will come true by themselves, without your participation. For everything to come true, some actions will need to be taken, but that's a completely different story.
When we were little, each of us knew our purpose. If you have forgotten what you dreamed about as a child, ask your relatives.
Day three. Design your ideal contract
Imagine you are a star! You are so professional, in demand and popular that "headhunters" are chasing you, ready to do anything to get you. You are offered to sign a contract with an ideal salary, in which you are allowed to independently choose what you will do, in what field and under what conditions. Yes, you are the lucky one!
You, of course, guess that each of us actually has such an opportunity? If not, I'm sharing a secret with you. Modern world offers a choice of a wide variety of professions and fields of activity, any options for work schedules and other conditions. Unfortunately, very often many do not know what they want, or do not want to make an effort to achieve what they want. Or, for some reason, they do not find the opportunity to sit down and think seriously about this issue.
So let yourself be puzzled by it right now and choose the perfect job. Let's think broader, because we ourselves are the authors of all our limits and limitations. Have 100 items on your list, or at least 20. By the way, this exercise is useful to do from time to time, as your preferences may change and it is important to adjust your ideal contract so that the work continues to inspire you.
It is worth not only to draw up your ideal contract, but also to review it from time to time. Our preferences can change and it is important to make adjustments in time so that our work continues to inspire us.
Day four. What would you like to give to others?
All of us . We live in a society and cannot exist independently, on our own. Therefore, it always alarms me when I hear that someone wants to do something exclusively for themselves. Wants to have fun in the process, achieve self-realization through favorite activities and get satisfaction from achieving results. All these desires are beautiful, but the questions “Why?”, “Why are you?”, “What is your meaning?” remain unanswered.
It seems to me that such an egocentric position is initially inferior and flawed in relation to the one in which the motive to “give” is present. Activity can bring complete satisfaction only if you share something with others, serve them. And transforming your favorite pastime into a job is possible only if you find a way to benefit others through your activities.
A combination of answers to the questions "Why?" and “What do I want to give to others?” will give the very meaning without which complete satisfaction from work is impossible.
Day five. What do you like and really enjoy?
Up to this day, we have focused on your dreams, interests, desires, and what you would like to do. You were not limited by anything except your fantasies and self-created limitations. Your dreams, interests and desires are the guides to your work, but they contain a certain amount of risk. If most of them have remained in the fantasy world and you have not tried to realize them, you cannot be sure that this is exactly what you like and enjoy. Nevertheless, these lists are very important for discovering a calling. Let's leave them for a while.
Now we will return from the realm of fantasy to the real world. Your personal experience is another important source of information on the path to your calling. By carefully going through all your attempts to do something and the degree of your pleasure in the process, you can also find clues that will lead you to a calling.
Remember what you really like to do and what you definitely enjoy - in past jobs, while studying, during any other activity that you did. As a reminder, the key difference from the list you made on Day 2 is that you've tried it, and you know you're enjoying it. As usual, aim for 100 pips and keep them at least 20.
To be sure that you really like it and bring pleasure, you can only try what you dreamed about. Look for your calling in your experience and experiment more with your fantasies and interests.
Day six. Your talents, abilities, skills and their reflection in others
Each of us has many talents, whether we develop them or not. Think about what you are doing well, what have you achieved heights and achievements in? You probably have something that you know how to do better than others. Don't know about it? Remember what requests you usually receive. Don't remember? Then take a chance and ask! Call your relatives and friends and ask them what they would lose if they did not know you. Be prepared for the most unexpected answers. You will definitely learn a lot of interesting things! :)
Your talents and abilities will point you in the right direction to your calling. Do not know what you are strong in - ask others!
Day seven. Role, skill, vocation
The seventh day is a day of analysis and answering questions. Read each list and analyze it. Pay attention to the points that:
- repeated several times;
- seem to you the most valuable and important right now;
- cause you a special response and awe.
Choose about 10 items from each list (the number of items is not a strict parameter). Divide the items into four groups:
- Field of activity (medicine, art, sports, and so on).
- The essence of the activity (what exactly to do, what to do).
- Conditions (where, how, with whom, what time).
- Qualities and skills (how and what I can do).
Write down all the points on a blank A4 sheet or in a new word processor document. Add a description of your ideal lifestyle from day one and answers to the question “What do I want to give to others” from day four.
Analyze the resulting description and answer the questions: “What am I really do in peace when I do this?”, “What am I really I give the world when I do this?”, “What is my real role when I do this?”, “What is my exceptional gift what is mine skill and vocation when do I do it? Take your time, these questions require serious thought. The answers to them will allow you to find yourself.
Want to connect with work? Abstract and look at the result as if from the outside, as if it was not written by you, but by another person. Write job options that would fit such a request. Show to others and ask them to name options for a job that suits you. If you have the courage, publish it on the networks. How more you will show people with different professional erudition, the more diverse job options you will get. It is desirable to get a list of 20-30 various options professions. Choose one or two or three of them that you like the most.
Assess reality. To what extent what you are doing now is close and consonant with your request. Consider a strategy. Cardinal change? Smooth transition? Work at the same job, but the vocation to make a hobby and develop in an interesting direction in parallel? Write a plan. Take the first step. Check experimentally.
This will take several months or years. Scary? Be afraid, but do it. These few months or years will still pass sooner or later, and you either try or not. Hurry, because no one knows when his centennial anniversary will come. Remember, happiness is not the final destination, it is the journey itself. Even a few seconds closer to your ideal life is already a result.